Sunday, April 5, 2009

Dear Man,

            No offense intended kind sir, but I do not desire to be you. On the contrary, I am proud to be quite different. This current movement of modeling your clothing and your mannerisms has been pushed upon me by society for far too long. ‘Tis a pity that your foul mouth has infested mine, and that it has become acceptable for me to utter such filth in the presence of others. We have strayed from our feminine ways of modesty, reserved nature, and politeness, exchanging these for provocative attire, brashness, and ill manners. Often such motives are to appeal to your unbridled masculine desires, and in doing so I am losing my identity as a unique and respectable sex. I have been fooled into believing your wants should be mine as well. I have rejected such beautiful and intricate attire for fear of appearing weak or unattractive beside you. My fight for equality has become a fight for the right to imitate and please. In my struggle for equal dignity, confusion has occurred, making it a struggle for your ambitions and manly qualities, or often to appease them, and even you have forgotten who I am.

I have received what the so-called “feminists” of my sex have asked for: I open my own door, walk in behind you, pull up my own chair, and pay for my own meal. In our blindness for more power rather than equality, my innate qualities have been underappreciated. Delicacy does not imply a lack of strength, and displaying my emotions does not mean I lack the ability to be logical.  In envying your qualities, I have forgotten to value my own such as my nurturing nature, sensitivity, and compassion. In lowering my standards, I have equally lowered yours. For this I apologize and promise to work to regain the respect and dignity those in the past have worked so hard for. I only ask that you help me in this fight by supporting my right to be equal in dignity and rights with a role distinct from your own. I now realize that just because I now have the right to act like you, does not mean I should. I desire, not to be treated like your fellowmen, but rather as your compliment and counterpart, whose qualities although quite different, are just as valued.




Anne Marie said...

you tell 'em! NOW who's wearing the skirt? It is almost like the tide has shifted to that the men are wearing the skirts and the women have the pants on...I'm all for women's equality- and I believe we do, but it's when the bitterness from our lives boldly goes where it shouldn't....there are just some things that have to stay "under wraps" kwim?

I don't know about you, but I would like men to be manly, strong, and confident where they are going and who they are leading...not afraid.

interesting angle on that~

Anne Marie said...

It was bought at a local shop....I would love to take you there sometime!!

Keirajoyful said...

I support your points.Women should
be treated compliment and counterpart.

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B.E.M. said...

Dear Andrea,

Thank you for this letter. No offense taken. To the contrary, this is a refreshing and most welcome read. The irony here is rich. You employ precisely the kind frank and forthright presentation which ought to make so-called “feminists” proud, but in so doing you undermine their insipid ideology, not only through your wit and rhetorical depth of insight, but also your respectful manner and decorum. Here is all of the class which is truly feminine, and none of the vinegar of false feminism.

It is astonishing how successfully we can blind ourselves—and let ourselves be blinded—to what is writ large upon the Natural Law. Not to mention Sacred Scripture, which is also quite telling, and at times with only a single word. In the Creation account, when God creates Man He takes him from the dust of the earth and speaks the word yasar “to form”. And correspondingly, this word carries an earthy connotation used elsewhere to describe the construction of tools and other rudimentary implements of labor. But when God turns to the creation of Woman, He draws her from an already living being, and speaks the word banah “to fashion”. And as such we often find this word used to depict the works of artisans—those who would craft and adorn the vessels of worship used among the ancient Israelites. Its so beautiful. Our distinct complimentarity is expressed even of the essence of the words which God spoke to bring us into being. Its an especially revealing example of how His Word possesses—within Himself—the formal, efficient, and final causality of all of the things He wishes to create.

Keep up the good work!

Kind Regards,


Andrea G said...

Thank you Señor! It's nice to know that this concept is still respected in those of the opposite sex as well. Your own comment could be a wonderful essay all on its own! Take care and God bless!